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Dirty 30 or …?

This morning I woke up age thirty. Life and time go so fast. I had a hard time accepting this fact and had been dreading this day for about a month. In my eyes, I had not accomplished all that I thought I would have. I reflected on my life and realized I did not finish many things I had attempted.

It is easy to have a pity party. Even easier to sulk and stay in that place. Now I sit typing this and it is more apparent I am blessed. My sister and two nephews are once again in Washington and I get to be an influential part of their growth and development. I have parents who love and continue to support me in what I choose to do. My brother and sister are always there to talk to; be a listening ear as well as give me mostly logical advice. Haha. I also have a handful of great friends who have been with me through difficult times and great moments. I try not to take that for granted. I am still here. I have a voice. I have a purpose; reason for being here.

A couple of weeks ago my friend D. and I were giving a lesson to the teenagers at my church. After she shared the story of Nehemiah, I told them that no one was a mistake and that God put them here for a reason. That someones salvation depended on them being obedient to God. I think at that point I was reminding myself more than them.I did not want to celebrate, in my eyes, what was failure. D. said something that I needed to hear.She tends to do this without knowing. She said, “Back on October 31, 1986, God knew that someone in 2016 , would need to hear what she had to say.” It wasn’t many words but the timing was great. I almost wanted to shout and cry. I think we all have those times where we get discouraged. This time it just felt different. God reminded me that he hasn’t forgotten about me.

From this day forward I will be optimistic about my future and my 30’s.  Don’t know what it all entails but I actually excited.







You Just Be Yourself

Soooooooo. I was thinking about my day to day interaction with people. In having a conversation with a couple other individuals, I gave my five cents of contribution. Notice I didnt say two. ☺ it was a rather good, healthy dialect. I late thought about what I said and thought maybe I shouldnt have said what I said. I used to, and sometimes still do, have a hard time explaining my point of view. When I speak I want you to fully understand where Im coming from. Its not like my opinions were off topic or that I was yelling or talking over anyone. I felt the need to apologize for what I thought. When did I ever think it was ok to feel bad about how I truly felt? Im no longer going to feel sorry about my thoughts. I am firm believer in saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Be yourself and stand up for what you believe. This can hold true for any age. Please remember to be respectful, kind, open to others as well. There is a time and place for everything and it is also how you go about saying those things.

Have a wonderful day!

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Early Morning…..4:50

I am up at 4 o’clock a.m. for no apparent reason. If this had happen any other time, I would have just prayed and then rolled over to fall asleep. Buuut not today.

I am frustrated and its interfering with my beauty rest. I have a friend whom I have known for quite some time and I am just tired of the way things have transpired. Although I may have not graduated college, I am still intelligent and that fact that someone has to constantly one-up me or correct me with their opinion ALL the time is starting to annoy me. I try not to let it get to me. Justifying the actual reason for my being upset isn’t working, Whenever I get upset, I either call people out or I choose not to address the situation. I am used to holding things inside but it’s getting to a point where I don’t want to do that anymore. If I’m unhappy and your words or actions made me feel that way, I want to be honest and tell you about it. I don’t want to let the little things bother me but it’s becoming bigger. If I don’t speak up, things will just get worse.

There are times I distance myself. Not to necessarily be rude. I just do not want to deal with confrontation. I need to grab the situation by the horns and speak on it instead of lashing out later because I bottled my feelings.  There is a time and place for everything. I suppose now is the time. Well, maybe later today. 🙂

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    Hello, hello, and hello again! Happy friday! I have been waiting for this day since monday. 🙂

Last saturday was National Natural Hair Meetup Day and I went to the only function in Washington. I was so happy it was in my city. It was held in a local downtown coffee shop.My mom, sister and I went together and had a nice time. The love of natural hair was in the room. The 30+ women created a warm and friendly atmosphere. There were vendors, a product swap, raffle drawings, and story telling. Yours truly pased out a few business cards lol. I also talked to the event coordinator about possiby being a vendor at the next gathering. She told me the next meeting will consist of investigating product ingredients. That’s great because I am somewhat a novice when it comes to finding out what’s what besides petroleum and sulfates.

I only took a few pics:

Our free goodies. I won a Shea Moisture product!

My moms Henna artwork

A button that was in our bags

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Hello all!! I hope each and every one of you are having a great day!

A good friend of mine sent me this video literally 11 hours ago and I’d thought I would share it with you all.

This is really the tip of the iceberg, really. But I want you to see it for what it is. Take a look and comment. I will soon write a follow-up.



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Happy Friday!! I hope you all are having a fantastic day. If not, I hope your day gets better. Each morning I am blessed to see, I make up in my mind of thinking the best. Everything may not be going alright but I CHOOSE to look at the brighter things in life. There is always someone worse off than you.

A lot of things have been going on in the news lately. Trayvon Martin, Geraldo Rivera and his Twitter account, Kony 2012, Obama and his healthcare plan….

Being a black man in America has never been a popular trend. Except, maybe as a trend on Twitter. Everyone wants to be black but not everyone wants to BE black. I am not going to go into depth with this topic but my heart and prayers go out to his family and friends. A young man is dead. No parent should have to bury their child.

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Hey everyone! I hope you are having a productive friday like I am! I have been really busy getting ready for a holiday bazaar at a local middle school. I am SO excited for this opportunity. I can not wait to show others the hard work I have put into my products. Frequent this site to check up on what I’m doing and my shop! I am also on Tumblr and Twitter. Don’t forget to “Like” my fan page on Facebook. Thank you for all your support. You really dont know how grateful I am, really.




***Update: The teacher strike ended last week! The governor had to step in and get the two sides to reach an agreement. SMH

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Attention: This is your blogger speaking.

            Most times, I think about which words to say before I actually speak them. Other times not so much lol. After thinking about this, I have come to some conclusions:

1.    Words can be lethal. The Bible says life and death are in the power of the tongue. I totally believe that.

2. Your words affect/effect those around you, whether you realize it or not.

3. What you say can leave a lasting impression; good or bad.

4. Your thoughts influence your actions or lack thereof.

5.      The things others say about you can make or break you.

Although different points it still ties in to the main idea of how we use our words.

I used to believe what negative things were said about me. It was hard hearing them because 1.) I couldn’t believe those individuals thought that of me and 2.)
Every time I did it hurt my spirit. The more I heard the statements the more I
started to think they were true. One day when I feel more comfortable I will
share my whole story but until then….

You ARE what you THNK. It is truly a learning experience. You have to know who you are in God’s eyes. That alone gives you a whole new way of thinking. So
whenever you do hear negative things you can ignore them and not get pulled into
believing the lies. It is not an overnight process. I have to remind myself
this almost every day.

Choose your words wisely. You never know what state of mind a person can be in at any given time. You could possibly say that one thing that breaks the camel’s back. To be continued….




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Happy friday everyone!! If you are like me I am so excited for the weekend. As of now I don’t have anything set in stone as to what I plan to do—except cleaning my house. Which leads me to the topic of the day: Cleaning house.

Right now I am not speaking about physically cleaning up your house but more like evaluating relationships and friendships. Ask yourself these questions. Are you happy with how things are going with your best friend? Do any of your close friends support you in your aspirations/dreams? Have they helped you when you faced difficult situations or are going through a hard time? Do they encourage you and wish you well?

Not everyone is perfect but there should be some kind of balance in any type of
relationship. It’s a reciprocated not one-sided. When I was younger I used to have one-way friendships. I realized that it really didn’t benefit me. It felt like they were hindering me from doing and achieving more. That’s a hard pill to swallow while in middle/high school. I cut ties with people because of their actions. Backstabbing seemed to be the name of the game and I wasn’t having it so I stayed mostly to myself. I could not grasp the fact of someone claiming to be your girl but then talking behind your back and telling secrets she promised she wouldn’t. That not only hurts but you learn to build walls because you don’t want to feel that way again. That can stall potential friends and possibly significant others from getting to know who you truly are. How are they supposed to get to know you if you don’t let them in?

Fast forward to today and I still have a handful of friends that I talk to daily. And I have known them for at least ten years each. Building trust is one of the most important factors in lasting friendships. Look at those you surround yourself with. Are you growing or stalling?



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If I knew then, what I know now.

This week’s post is a letter to my 13 year old self.  I believe all of the experiences I have gone through are for a reason. Hopefully someone can learn from them and take note so they will not go through what I did. Though there are many who have poured into my life, nothing compares when a peer gives you advice; good or bad. Something triggers in their brain and they suddenly “get it”. So this is a letter to a younger me. I hope you enjoy and share.

Dear Sharday,

Here are some things that I believe are important and will help you in your life:

  • Be yourself
  • You can not please everyone, so don’t even try
  • Have fun and learn to smile
  • Choose friends wisely
  • Being a child of God may not be popular at your
    age but do it anyway and be proud
  • Befriend those whom you wouldn’t normally
  • Be a leader and do not be afraid of the role
  • Speak up for yourself
  • Be confident in who you are
  • Continue to be responsible
  • Don’t be afraid to shine
  • Write even more in your journals so you can keep
    precious memories


24 y/o Sharday

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